How Does Phone Sex Work?

Most people would probably say they are aware of phone sex as a general concept. By contrast, those who fully understand how phone sex works exist in significantly smaller numbers.

Contrary to popular belief, nothing about phone sex is dirty or sordid. And nor is it restricted only to those with the kinds of ferocious sexual appetites that demand immediate and constant satisfaction. In truth, anyone feeling even slightly horny at any time could find enormous joy and satisfaction in phone sex.

Of course, the fact that we all live our lives glued to our mobile devices these days makes the whole thing significantly easier. If you happen to be in a relationship, you are never more than a quick call away from all the sexual gratification you will ever need. Even if you’re not, there are countless professional phone sex services available, providing quick fixes where required.

But assuming you’ve never given phone sex a try and have no idea where to start, what kinds of things should you be doing and not doing to gain maximum enjoyment from the experience?

Short answer – it doesn’t really matter what you do, as long as it’s right for you.  The thing to remember about phone sex is that just like all other types of sex, everyone gets off on different things. We all have our unique characteristics, preferences and behaviours that make us who we are. So when it comes to phone sex, it’s a case of working out exactly what does and doesn’t work for you.

To be honest, attempting to follow too many rules and standards can make the whole thing a pain in the ass. You can’t expect to get much out of phone sex if you follow a specific set of rules, or the kind of script that takes all the imagination and improvisation out of the equation.

Instead, think of it as a voyage of adventure and exploration – the following pointers serving as a great starting point for anyone:

  • First up, don’t think you’re going to make it work with one hand. If you really want to get the most out of phone sex, it needs to be 100% hands-free experience. Referring to your phone, of course, not yourself. You’ll be needing both of your hands to get busy. If you haven’t got a decent hands-free kit or speaker, that’s the first thing you’ll be needing to buy.
  • It’s important to ensure that there are no disturbances or interruptions whatsoever while indulging in phone sex. Phone calls, emails, unexpected knocks at the door – all the kinds of things you are going to need to ignore. The very nature of phone sex makes it far too easy to get distracted and completely ruin the mood. Not to mention, give the person on the other end the impression you have far more important priorities to tend to.
  • Make your intentions clear ahead of time, if possible. The reason being that if you don’t let the person on the other end know you intend to initiate phone sex, they may be in no position to reciprocate at the time. There’s nothing wrong with spontaneity, but it’s a good idea to at least let them know you’re in the mood. That said, if you can tell they’re well and truly in the mood, go for it!
  • If it’s not in your usual nature, don’t suddenly burst into the kind of filthy sex talk you’ve only ever heard in porn movies. Particularly if dirty talk doesn’t come to you naturally, you need to gradually ease yourself into it. Even if the person on the other end of the line likes your filthy talk, you’ll probably feel so ridiculous spouting it you’ll be unable to enjoy yourself.  Take your time, say what’s on your mind and say it in your own voice and words – not those of someone else.
  • Always remember that any kind of silence can have a negative effect on the mood. As a general rule of thumb therefore, try to ensure that you’re making at least some kind of noise at all times. Silences during phone sex immediately give the person on the other end the impression that you’re focusing on something else and not giving them your full attention. For obvious reasons, this can pretty much destroy the mood in an instant.
  • While scripting things word for word is never a good idea, it can be helpful to create a few pointers and reminders ahead of time. While working yourself up into a horny frenzy, think about all the things you’d like to be doing right now if you could. Note them down and use them to nurture your imagination and memory during the call.
  • Asking questions can be a great way of maximising the enjoyment of phone sex. Rather than simply saying things and doing things, ask the person on the other end how they are feeling, what they are doing, what they would like you to do and so on. It’s all about interaction and focusing on each other’s needs and preferences, rather than just your own. Just don’t fall into the trap of asking for step by step instructions, which isn’t particularly sexy at the best of times
  • Last but not least, under no circumstances should you ever laugh or make fun of anything your partner says. The reason being that if it turns out they weren’t trying to be funny, you could give them the kind of complex that rules-out phone sex indefinitely. Unless you know it’s a joke, assume they’re being serious!

Phone sex has the potential to be uniquely convenient and incredibly enjoyable.  Once you get past those first few awkward calls, you begin to wonder why you didn’t pick up the phone and organise an eargasm long ago.

Make no mistake about it – phone sex is addictive in the best possible way!

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